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The site F.A.Q.

Q:  Hi, I'm new here. How do I know you're not just all a bunch of pervs and weirdos?

A: ...Well we like to think we're unconventional, which I guess is the polite way of saying "weird". And as for being pervs.. no way! Well, no more than you'd find in any other aspect of life. We pride ourselves on being very ethical, so any perving has to be done by mutual consent.

Q: How come this is a free site? What's the catch?

A: Collared is a long-standing and growing community and wants to give its members the best possible experience. The website is paid for by the revenue from our club events. There's no catch other than the catch on the hinge of your chastity device (bad pun there).

Q: I'm a newbie with almost no experience of kink. In fact I don't think I even know what I want. Will I come across as an idiot if I admit that?

A: No, not at all. Collared is partly aimed at those people just starting out in kink, and so most of the time, you'll receive nothing but support and encouragement, whatever your level of experience.

Q: How on earth do I find my way around this site?

A: The easiest way is to familiarise yourself with our handy Site Map, which will also link you directly to all parts of the site..

Q: Is it safe to go into the Chat Room?

A: Absolutely, only members of the site are allowed in there, and there's someone policing what's going on in there 99.9% of the time.

Q. Why is this a male only site? Does that mean it's exclusively gay?

A. There are some excellent sites out there for straight people and for mixed gender. Top of our list are Informed Consent and Fetlife but we wanted to create something a little different. BDSM is a difficult enough activity for most people to get their head around, but male-to-male kink is even more complex. Although quite a few of our members are straight or bi, we have many people - and a lot of young people - who are trying to come to terms with their gay sexuality. They need a community dedicated to their own needs.

Q: I'm an older gentleman. Will I still be welcome on here?

A: Collared welcomes members of all ages onto the site, whether they're 18 or 80. As long as you respect people's individual preferences on age (and this goes for the youngsters too!) then everything should be fine.

Q: Who is this ugly character called Dr Evil and why do you keep annoying me with him?

A: Dr. Evil is our profile completion monitor. He's there to encourage you to fill in your profile. If you don't wish to, that's fine, but you're stuck with him I'm afraid!

Q: How secure and private is this site and how safe is my information?

A: Privacy is at the core of everything we do. Collared has a strict privacy policy which you can view here

Q: Why do you want my postcode? Isn't that a risk to my privacy?

A: Firstly, entering your postcode allows you, and people looking at your profile, to see how far away from you they are in case they wished to meet you. Second, there's no risk to your privacy as the postcode itself is never displayed. It's just a tool to benefit you. If in doubt just use the first half of your postcode.

Q: What does the Latin motto at the bottom of the Homepage mean?

A: Amplecti gaudia imperium et obsequium means "to embrace the joys of command and obedience". Aren't we the clever ones...

Q: I'm looking for recipes involving Collard greens but I can't find any on here.

A: *Bangs head repeatedly against desk*

Q: How do I improve my chances of finding a sub/dom?

A: First off your best chance is to fill your profile in with as much information as you can. This will allow a potential sub/dom to see exactly how compatible you're likely to be. Secondly, try putting a photo up. People feel far more comfortable when they know who they're looking at. Third, try using the chat and forum facilities. Making your face known publicly on the site will increase your chances of getting messages from other users.

Q: How can I get other users to notice me?

A: There are several ways to get noticed. If you're not comfortable with just sending someone a hello message why not post something on the forums, even if it's just to say hi? If you've switched on your tracks in the site settings section of "edit profile" then they'll be able to see when you've visited their profile. However maybe the coolest way to get their attention is to send them a poke, spank, beg, lick or flogging which you can launch from their profile. That will remain on their profile until it drops off the "latest five" list. Remember though that you can only do this to any single user once every 24 hours.

Q: Did you know you are in line to become the next king of Nigeria... all I need is your bank acc-

A: How did that get in here! DELETE!!!!

Q: I don't want to show my face on my profile. Is that OK?

A: It may affect your chances of finding somebody, but of course, we don't EXPECT anyone to show their face. Remember though that we have restricted and secret galleries and data fields in your profile, so you can select who gets to see what information. Once you trust someone, you can decide to let them see a face pic. 

Q:  received one of the fancy new Collared membership cards at the last event I attended. How should I use it?

A: You'll notice that there's a 10-digit number on the card. This stupidly long number is for a reason. First, if you register your card on the Collared site by associating it here then we can replace it at cost price if you ever lose it. More important, as we introduce new members in our discount affiliates programme then you'll be able to order discounted goods online..

Q: I've been on other sites where some users are total arseholes on the forums. Does that happen here?

A: Every forum has arseholes, but generally our members are all very well behaved. If you do have any issues then please contact a member of the admin team.

Q: A member of the admin team was being an arsehole, what should I do?

A: Try another one...

Q: Who do I go to if I have technical difficulties on the site?

A: id:akaMasterPete - if he doesn't answer you, any member of staff that you think can give him a kick up the arse.

Q: I'm happy to hear important news from the site but I don't want to be bombarded with emails. How often do you send mass emails to members?

A: We respect this, and only send out e-mails between once a fortnight and once a month.

Q: Why does this entire FAQ seem to be written by a complete psychopath?

A: Because this entire FAQ was written by a complete psychopath.

Q: Is there anything else I should know?

A: Don't step on the cracks, always wear clean underwear and don't eat yellow snow.